I’m sure you’ve known couples that do everything together. Or you have a best friend with whom you’re dying to spend some alone time — without his beloved coming along every single time. When things are going well and everything feels so right… it’s hard to think rationally at times, even though we are ashamed of our eagerness in retrospect when the infatuation chemicals have worn off. It’s important to remember that these things can be a serious step for many people — even if you don’t think so at the time. Rushing into things like this too quickly will often scare the girl away.
I’m saying “man” for a reason. Women tend to keep in close touch with their girlfriends, and men keep hitting on her all time — keeping her social motor going. We men, on the other hand… we often become complacent, and forget to nurture our social life outside the relationship. Even with our best friends. When you are infatuated… your priorities change, and all you want to do is to be with your loved one.
There’s a lot of relationship advice out there that teaches things like, “If your girlfriend is talking to other guys when you go out to a bar, flirt with other women, and make out with them in front of her. This approach to dating doesn’t feel very good, produces a lot of anxiety, and is not the best way to start a relationship.
Make sure you read step 3 because it’s ALL about developing a social life and getting out. To overcome your introverted ways – first – figure out why you’re like that, what are your fears around others, why do feel feel you need to get noticed, are you trying to please others and feel you have nothing to offer, do you not feel good enough, those are the questions you need to start asking yourself because within your personal answers is your way out.
The mission doesn’t stop once you’ve entered the room. People often wonder how to get to this stage. They have what I call a “town mindset” – that sense of comfort only a big fish in a little pond can feel.
Before you actively search for a relationship, you must first be comfortable within yourself. Self assurance and self sufficiency are very attractive qualities in a guy and it is important that you don’t come across as desperate for a girlfriend. Instead, be comfortable in your own skin and content being single.
If she doesn’t respond or seems upset when you try to flirt, it could be a sign that she’s not interested in being your girlfriend right now.
And a girl who is interested in you and thinks that you don’t want to have sex with her will be furious indeed.
Before you jump into the “we,” you need to make sure you’re able to commit to a relationship.
10. Solidify Your First-Date Strategy
Fortunately, it can be solved by simply reading a few good books on the topic. The man I recommend the most on the topic is David DeAngelo. He shows you exactly what it takes to create massive attraction and get that girl you’ve been wanting. When dating, each subsequent date must progress more and more. If the first date as great and the second is a flop, then you can kiss (or not) that potential girlfriend goodbye.
3) Get good at approaching girls
If you want the hottest girl you’ve ever met, who you haven’t met yet to be your girlfriend sometime in the future, stay here. I’m not saying you have to fuck a bunch of chics and add them to your number, merely stating UNTIL you are ready – do NOT commit to one woman. Do NOT chase ONE woman. Do NOT do this to land the one hot chic you’ve been dreaming of and chasing half your life. You want out of the friends zone – go here.
Many just need to get closer to the girl they’re interested in. There are definitely signs a girl likes you.
Work on the problem at hand and take women OUT of the equation. Which means you need to explore the reasons why you’re introverted. Most likely it’s because of social communication skills, lack of self-esteem, not feeling confident enough around others, and the mindset that you NEED to DO something to get noticed… and you don’t have to DO anything. First of all – change your mindset.